Dating and patience
Funny that I can’t even remember why it was a low point.
Probably because I had created some kind of timeline where I imagined that I should have been in a relationship by that point.
This week we have a question that gently touches three different aspects of relationships.
One of which is the dreaded ‘friend zone’, best described in popular culture as a platonic relationship that contains no romantic entanglements.
To quote myself to myself (how meta), my main point was that I should be patient and do nothing: “In waiting, you’ve grown impatient at times and have tried to force things that weren’t meant to be, fought too hard for something that you knew was wrong, held on too tight to something that was already dead and gone, or pushed people away out of fear. Accept that it’s a mystery and sit down, shut up, enjoy your freaking life, and patiently wait your turn.”, because, like I said, I had lost faith, even in the truth of my own words. Exactly what I told myself to do — be patient and wait my turn — was precisely what led to me running smack into the love relationship I was waiting for. I ran into him on the subway one day and the rest was a wonderful mystery.
I look at him sometimes and say, “Why were we both on the same subway car that day? Even though I’m in love, I don’t have single amnesia in the least. I can’t remember who said it now, but a Buddhist philosopher talked about cultivating a lifelong, unconditional friendship with yourself. Sometimes, during my long ass single stretch, I would get jealous watching my friends get snapped up left and right.
You want to get to know the person and each have a chance for a fresh start.
Carrying old baggage into a new relationship amounts to clutter.
The more patient you can be with yourself, the more patient you will be in your quest for finding the right person at the right time. The obvious factor is anxiety, a dirty, weasel-like state that makes men and women alike want to crawl out of their skin as they sit across from a stranger and try to pretend they're perfectly at ease. Simply put, it's about the dreaded pauses, as well as the rote questions people feel compelled to ask each other upon first meeting. If you hate dating, it usually boils down to two factors, one of which is obvious; the other of which is not.To cope with all the hopelessness, bitterness, loneliness, panic, frustration and feelings of failure I was experiencing, I wrote an open letter to my single self.Although I didn’t believe it at the time, I gave myself the most awesome advice. Love is a mystery that you can’t harness or control or elicit or will.
Search for dating and patience:
Improve your dating technique by understanding common mistakes people make. Game playing: This strategy is usually employed for one of two reasons. When it comes to dating, everyone, on some level, fears rejection.